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May 16, 2013

Without Provocation?

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works.” - Hebrews 10:24 An unprovoked life is incomplete. Convenient, probably, and certainly free of unwanted feedback, but incomplete. Someone should know you, and someone should have access to your heart and mind to the extent that she or he can speak to your blind spots. That’s a critical part of discipleship, often overlooked Continue Reading

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May 14, 2013

The Minimalist

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist  “Men do not differ much about what things they call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.”  - G. K. Chesterton Over the years I’ve seen too many Christian husbands in my office who’ve perfected the art of minimizing. I’ll begin by asking, “OK, what brought you here?” Some actual responses I’ve gotten:      “I sometimes find myself using Continue Reading

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April 12, 2013

Coming Out Manly

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Men coming out of the closet is business as usual. But pro athletes coming out of the locker room are another matter, one that’s making ripples and headlines everywhere.  As of this writing, at least one unnamed but presumably well-known professional player, from one of the four major sports, is about to drop the “I’m Gay” bomb. The National Hockey League, in anticipation of the big event, now officially offers its support to gay Americans in general and gay athletes in particular. Not to be outdone, the National Football League has Continue Reading

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March 18, 2013

The Vanishing Edge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — The Vanishing Edge We were out to dinner with a couple this weekend and, as often happens, the husbands paired off while the wives engaged in their own conversation. My friend and I started commiserating and complaining about the usual – not enough time, too little energy, too much uncertainty. It felt good to vent and be vented to, but one point he brought up especially resonated with me. “We need margins”, he noted, “and when we’ve Continue Reading

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January 21, 2013

Scars: Honoring Dr. Martin Luther King with Resilience

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“For the victory to be won some of us will have to get scarred a bit.” - Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. To admire is not to idealize, nor is it to be blinded to obvious flaws. So yes, I’ve read about Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s alleged infidelities, and the evidence supporting the allegations is, alas, pretty solid.  Also, his political views probably tilted further left than he publicly acknowledged so no, I don’t assume everything he said was right, much less inspired. (I am in fact in disagreement with him on some points, Continue Reading

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December 4, 2012

Zombied with Children

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — Zombied with Children  The current rage of all things zombie – The Walking Dead series on AMC, zombie movies, zombie apocalypse enthusiasts - is puzzling. The creatures are, after all, nothing new, having been described in countless novels and horror films, so why they’re enjoying such popularity now eludes me. And it’s not as if they have qualities you can connect with, as some monsters do. Frankenstein’s creature had a certain childlikeness Continue Reading

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November 27, 2012

The Other Bond

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — The Other Bond Adultery is trending. Anna Karenina opened in movie theaters last week, updating one of literature’s most renowned extra marital affairs. Liz and Dick, the Lifetime Channel’s biopic on the notorious Taylor/Burton relationship which began with infidelity and became a national obsession, aired Sunday night. And, of course, we’re still sorting out the confusing, tangled elements of the Petraeus scandal. So the act of straying Continue Reading

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November 5, 2012

The Best, Not the Most

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — The Best, Not the Most “So maybe my nature does draw me to you. That doesn’t mean I have to go with it. I can say yes to some things, and no to some things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that. Otherwise, you know, what good is this life God gave us?” -from the film “Moonstruck” In the story cited above, an engaged woman has fallen in love with her fiancé’s brother. Realizing the wrongness of pursuing a relationship Continue Reading

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October 29, 2012

Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Some time ago I wrote this in response to the question of what steps a man should take to “keep it clean.” Considering the amount of stimulation and temptation we’re confronted with daily, common sense tells us to be, and stay, prepared. Here are ten ways we can help make that happen. Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity Tip 1: GET REAL Recognize that sexual temptation is unavoidable in our sex-obsessed culture. Erotic images on Continue Reading

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September 6, 2012

Without Provocation?

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works.” - Hebrews 10:24 An unprovoked life is incomplete. Convenient, probably, and certainly free of unwanted feedback, but incomplete. Someone should know you, and someone should have access to your heart and mind to the extent that she or he can speak to your blind spots. That’s a critical part of discipleship, often overlooked Continue Reading

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