The Unscheduled Appointment

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — The Unscheduled Appointment I love what I do for a living, and count myself hugely blessed when I remember how rare it is for your work and your first love to be the same. I come alongside men getting serious about their holiness, I write on subjects that matter to me, and I speak to churches and conferences, all of which I’d do as a volunteer if I had to do something else for income. My work is my passion, so I’m a pathetic brat if Continue Reading

Another Spirit

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Another Spirit But my servant Caleb, because he had another spirit with him, and hath followed me fully, him will I bring into the land where into he went; and his seed shall possess it. - Numbers 14:24 There’s a spirit within most people, I guess, which could properly be called the status quo spirit – the frame of mind and heart that settles, stays with what’s comfortably familiar, and never considers conquering new territory. It Continue Reading

Graceless

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Graceless Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become [as] sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.  - I Corinthians 13:1 I’ve had to look long and hard at what an angry man I can be. It happened when I wasn’t looking. More than twenty years ago I started experiencing those disappointments and betrayals we all go through when we’re involved in any kind of ministry or service. And good grief, we all Continue Reading

Three Ways to Undo Trust

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Three Ways to Undo Trust If you’re a married man who’s messed up in some way --- boy, that was a stupid way to start a sentence. Any married men out there who haven’t messed up in some way? Let’s try again. If you’re a married man who’s messed up by committing sexual sin, and your wife is both aware of and recovering from your actions, then one of your primary goals is to Continue Reading

Class Goes Crass

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I’m a movie fan who never watches the Oscars. Back in 2003, when Best Documentary winner Michael Moore hijacked the proceedings to launch a tirade against President Bush, I decided I’d had enough. For years I’d already been feeling “preached to” during the ceremonies by different Hollywood evangelists who used their acceptance speech time to promote various causes, but Moore’s tantrum was just too much. We’ve never watched the show since then. Until last Sunday night, when we relented a bit and recorded it for future viewing. We Continue Reading

Like Me. Please, Like Me

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Like Me. Please, Like Me  The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe. - Proverbs 29:25 I wonder how many things you would have done, said, or at least tried, if you hadn’t been so worried about what other people would think. The more I review my life, the madder I get at myself for letting someone else’s opinion carry so much weight. Over the years, there are too Continue Reading

Default to Darkness

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Default to Darkness God’s blessings flow this month like lava. My client load has nearly doubled in the past few weeks; I just spent the weekend in Roanoke with 540 awesome students from Young Life and Inter Varsity discussing sexuality and holiness; my beautiful wife is looking lovelier than ever; my oldest son’s career is forming; my youngest son is getting more paid gigs for his Christian band; our new roof just went up; I have a new Continue Reading

Rebel Without a Clause

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Rebel Without a Clause The idea that this world is a playground instead of a battleground has now been accepted in practice by the vast majority of Christians. - A.W. Tozer Today I will, like you, be presented with countless opportunities to misuse my sexual self. There will be images I’ll pass on the street or the mall, unclean memories from past wrongdoings, fantasies that intrude like unwanted pop-ups on the computer. And every time Continue Reading

The Joy of Awful

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — The Joy of Awful “A person overtly expresses distress, but it is covertly gratified at the prospect of the satisfaction they can wring from their misfortune.” - Dr. Eric Berne, Games People Play Even as a child, dynamics between people interested me. I was ten years old when Eric Berne’s classic Games People Play was published, and since I helped myself regularly to my parent’s reading material, I dove into Continue Reading

Our God’s Most High

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Our Gods Most High A depressing, recurring phrase shows up throughout the Old Testament books of the Kings and Chronicles: “King so-and-so ruled, and he did not tear down the high places.” The phrase “high places”, in fact, appears some 100 times in the Old Testament, and that alone makes the subject worth our attention. Evidently the high places of ancient times were raised locations, elevated areas where stones or monuments were Continue Reading