Without Provocation?

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works.” - Hebrews 10:24 An unprovoked life is incomplete. Convenient, probably, and certainly free of unwanted feedback, but incomplete. Someone should know you, and someone should have access to your heart and mind to the extent that she or he can speak to your blind spots. That’s a critical part of discipleship, often overlooked Continue Reading

Seven Habits of Highly Effective Husbands

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Seven Habits of Highly Effective Husbands Renee and I celebrated the big 25 last week, a milestone to any couple. I like to see our marriage as its own entity, commenting on its development as it grows, so on our first anniversary I said, “Our marriage should be walking any day now.” On our tenth, I noted it would go through puberty soon; on the sixteenth I moaned it could drive; on Continue Reading

Naked, Unashamed and Accountable

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Naked, Unashamed and Accountable And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. - Genesis 2:25 Shame wasn’t part of the human vocabulary until sin entered the picture. Adam and Eve were, as countless paintings and films suggest, innocently erotic and erotically innocent. No clothes and, I daresay, no inhibitions. That was then, and then was worlds away, ages ago. Today shame permeates the human experience. No Continue Reading

Class Goes Crass

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I’m a movie fan who never watches the Oscars. Back in 2003, when Best Documentary winner Michael Moore hijacked the proceedings to launch a tirade against President Bush, I decided I’d had enough. For years I’d already been feeling “preached to” during the ceremonies by different Hollywood evangelists who used their acceptance speech time to promote various causes, but Moore’s tantrum was just too much. We’ve never watched the show since then. Until last Sunday night, when we relented a bit and recorded it for future viewing. We Continue Reading

To Love, Honor and Downton Abbey

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — To Love, Honor and Downton Abbey I’d been conked out for nearly an hour when Renee’s outraged cry jolted me upright. A scream in the house usually means there’s been an accident, and in this case it was severe. Matthew had just been hit by an oncoming truck en route from his wife and beautiful newborn son, leaving the estate’s financial affairs in question since he had been such a stabilizing influence, and adding untold pressure to Lady Continue Reading

He’s Just Not That Into Him

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — He’s Just Not That Into Him A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Continue Reading

Wanting to Will

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Wanting to Will  “Draw me, and we will run after thee.” - Song of Songs 1:4 God initiates; we respond. So whatever we do by way of worship, service, or obedience, it’s done only because He first gave us the desire, then the ability, then the opportunity. Paul summed it up nicely: “For it is God who worketh in you, both to will, and to do of His good pleasure.” (Philippians 2:13)  So ours is no fifty/fifty contract between two Continue Reading

Self-Watch

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Self –Watch “But I discipline my body and bring it into subjection, lest, after I have preached Christ to others, I myself should become disqualified.” - I Corinthians 9:27 You’ve gotta appreciate Paul’s honesty. Here’s the great apostle/evangelist admitting that even at this point of his life and ministry, self-watch is essential. After preaching Christ to others, he realizes he could step outside God’s approval, and here, I Continue Reading

The Best, Not the Most

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — The Best, Not the Most “So maybe my nature does draw me to you. That doesn’t mean I have to go with it. I can say yes to some things, and no to some things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that. Otherwise, you know, what good is this life God gave us?” -from the film “Moonstruck” In the story cited above, an engaged woman has fallen in love with her fiancé’s brother. Realizing the wrongness of pursuing a relationship Continue Reading

Without Provocation?

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And let us consider one another to provoke unto love and to good works.” - Hebrews 10:24 An unprovoked life is incomplete. Convenient, probably, and certainly free of unwanted feedback, but incomplete. Someone should know you, and someone should have access to your heart and mind to the extent that she or he can speak to your blind spots. That’s a critical part of discipleship, often overlooked Continue Reading