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Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist “Men do not differ much about what things they call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.” - G. K. Chesterton Over the years I’ve seen too many Christian husbands in my office who’ve perfected the art of minimizing. I’ll begin by asking, “OK, what brought you here?” Some actual responses I’ve gotten: “I sometimes find myself using Continue Reading
Men coming out of the closet is business as usual. But pro athletes coming out of the locker room are another matter, one that’s making ripples and headlines everywhere. As of this writing, at least one unnamed but presumably well-known professional player, from one of the four major sports, is about to drop the “I’m Gay” bomb. The National Hockey League, in anticipation of the big event, now officially offers its support to gay Americans in general and gay athletes in particular. Not to be outdone, the National Football League has Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Blew It Again Day has begun and I’m already sinning Help me to change this heart that I have Lord, help me taste of the grace that You’re giving. I want to be a spiritual man. - from “Let the Old Man Die” lyrics by Chuck Butler When God puts His finger on a part of your life needing change, a new standard is birthed. Something you may have found acceptable is unacceptable now, making abstinence from that “something” a Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Three Ways to Undo Trust If you’re a married man who’s messed up in some way --- boy, that was a stupid way to start a sentence. Any married men out there who haven’t messed up in some way? Let’s try again. If you’re a married man who’s messed up by committing sexual sin, and your wife is both aware of and recovering from your actions, then one of your primary goals is to Continue Reading
I’m a movie fan who never watches the Oscars. Back in 2003, when Best Documentary winner Michael Moore hijacked the proceedings to launch a tirade against President Bush, I decided I’d had enough. For years I’d already been feeling “preached to” during the ceremonies by different Hollywood evangelists who used their acceptance speech time to promote various causes, but Moore’s tantrum was just too much. We’ve never watched the show since then. Until last Sunday night, when we relented a bit and recorded it for future viewing. We Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — A Doll’s Lesson Jan Frank, a terrific author, speaker and therapist dealing with women’s issues, made a point decades ago during one of her presentations that I’ve never forgotten. While teaching a workshop to counselors on surviving sexual abuse, she pulled out three little dolls. One of them had an upraised fist, one was tied up with a rope, and the third had its arm in a sling. “Each one of these has a problem, right?” she asked the Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Default to Darkness God’s blessings flow this month like lava. My client load has nearly doubled in the past few weeks; I just spent the weekend in Roanoke with 540 awesome students from Young Life and Inter Varsity discussing sexuality and holiness; my beautiful wife is looking lovelier than ever; my oldest son’s career is forming; my youngest son is getting more paid gigs for his Christian band; our new roof just went up; I have a new Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — He’s Just Not That Into Him A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — The Joy of Awful “A person overtly expresses distress, but it is covertly gratified at the prospect of the satisfaction they can wring from their misfortune.” - Dr. Eric Berne, Games People Play Even as a child, dynamics between people interested me. I was ten years old when Eric Berne’s classic Games People Play was published, and since I helped myself regularly to my parent’s reading material, I dove into Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Under New Management When my wife and I moved into Continue Reading
Hey, if you’re in Arkansas or the surrounding area, I’ll be teaching The Game Plan men’s purity seminar Saturday May 18 at Community Fellowship Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And Continue Reading
Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — We Who Are Seen “And she called the Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist “Men do not differ Continue Reading
{ Thansk Glenn. The intimacy thing isn't too simple is it? But well worth the work. Good hearing from you. } – May 20, 3:37 PM { "Safety net" is a good term for friends like that, Charlie. You're right to consider yourself blessed. Always good hearing from you. } – May 20, 3:36 PM
{ Joe, I love your transparency in which you write. I am with you, still trying to work on this intimacy thing. Thanks for the challenge... } – May 19, 1:49 PM
{ Welcome to ARKansas !!! Blessings =) } – May 18, 7:23 AM
{ Yes; it is uncomfortable, irritable, and at times dreaded, but how necessary and life saving at the same time! I consider myself blessed to have... } – May 17, 1:55 PM
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