The Dark Plunge

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — The Dark Plunge “--- a thorn in the flesh was given to me, a messenger of Satan sent to buffet me, lest I be exalted above measure.” - I Corinthians 12: 7 I’ve wrestled with depression since I was a teenager. I mean real depression, mind you, not the occasional “blues”, moodiness, or sadness we all experience from time to time. Depression is to a blue mood what a migraine is to a headache, which is to say Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant  Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” If that’s the case, here are the top five things I think she should Continue Reading

The Cruelest Lie

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and purity. Hope it helps. — The Cruelest Lie It hung over the entrance to Auschwitz, a large metal sign handmade by prisoners, offering a last shred of false hope to the doomed: “Arbeit macht frei” (“work makes you free”). Some have argued it was placed there to deceive inmates into thinking hard work would earn them a release, while others argue the saying was a common slogan extolling the virtue of labor. Either way, it was damnably false, a sick joke and the Continue Reading

Freely Forgiven

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Freely Forgiven "A happy marriage is made up of two good forgivers." - Robert Quillen It’s discouraging to hear a couple say they want to improve their marriage, then continue to rehash each other’s sins. You can put the car in drive or reverse, but not both, and certainly not at the same time. If you want to keep the upper hand by repeating your partner’s past Continue Reading

Cheaters Never Prosper

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Cheaters Never Prosper “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Defraud ye not one the other ---“ - I Corinthians 7: 3-5 Sins of omission are harder to spot, and easier to justify, then their more deliberate, obvious counterparts. When I cross a clearly defined line the moral question isn’t a question at all – I shouldn’t have done that. But when I should do something, yet Continue Reading

Married with Impact: Part 1 The Prayer Bond

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Married with Impact: Part I, The Prayer Bond “ --- and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered.” - I Peter 3:7 Two areas of married life couples often neglect are two of its most important aspects, to my thinking: the Prayer Bond and the Sexual Bond. Both are easy to ignore since they don’t demand immediate attention. The kids have to get to school; that can’t be put off. Meals need cooking; Continue Reading

Perfecting

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Perfecting “The Lord will perfect that which concerns me.” (Psalms138:8) I’ve every reason to give up on myself today. It’s only been a few hours since I woke, and in record time I’ve managed to snap at my wife, curse the list of To Do’s, whine about money, covet every fifty-something man who isn’t me and brush morning devotions aside because, after all, there’s too much else to do and God doesn’t seem to be taking my calls Continue Reading

The Critical Structure

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. --- The Critical Structure Where there’s sin, there’s chaos. That’s the nature of sin – it confuses everything and everybody it touches. When there’s reformation in the Church, there’s a return to the basics (the authority of the Bible, the need for prayer, the value of worship) and the establishing of order. Likewise, if you’re getting serious about your purity, then you’re also in a personal reformation. That means you, too, need Continue Reading

I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off.

I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off!

Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off. The year was 1971, the church was Calvary Chapel of Costa Mesa, and the speaker was Chuck Smith, who is regarded today as the father of the Jesus Movement and one of the world’s finest Bible teachers. I was there as a definitely unsaved 16 year old heathen who enjoyed porn and promiscuity, and had no intention of ever abandoning either. But that night, listening to Chuck’s clear Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant  Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” If that’s the case, here are the top five things I think she should Continue Reading