Wanted: Not Dead but Alive

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Wanted: Not Dead But Alive “I beseech you therefore brethren by the mercies of God that you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy and acceptable unto God, which is your reasonable service.” - Romans 5:1 Some men, in the middle of severe depression or despair, start crunching the numbers on their life insurance policy and figure they’re more valuable dead than alive. In the midst of a financial struggle, or personal failure of some Continue Reading

Shame On Me

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Every Thursday we’ll post something on emotional or relational health. Hope it helps. --- Shame on Me “Wherefore I abhor myself, and repent in dust and ashes.” – Job 42:6 In January of 1984, I had my crises of truth. I was a Christian who’d backslidden into destructive sexual behaviors, and the conflict between my sexual and spiritual desires reached its peak. That was the beginning of my recovery and, oddly enough, the darkest time of my life. All my porn had to go, of course. I had my cable service turned off, canceled my Continue Reading

I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off.

I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off!

Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — I’m Fine. No, Really. So Back Off. The year was 1971, the church was Calvary Chapel of Costa Mesa, and the speaker was Chuck Smith, who is regarded today as the father of the Jesus Movement and one of the world’s finest Bible teachers. I was there as a definitely unsaved 16 year old heathen who enjoyed porn and promiscuity, and had no intention of ever abandoning either. But that night, listening to Chuck’s clear Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant  Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” If that’s the case, here are the top five things I think she should Continue Reading

Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Some time ago I wrote this in response to the question of what steps a man should take to “keep it clean.” Considering the amount of stimulation and temptation we’re confronted with daily, common sense tells us to be, and stay, prepared. Here are ten ways we can help make that happen. Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity Tip 1: GET REAL Recognize that sexual temptation is unavoidable in our sex-obsessed culture. Erotic images on Continue Reading

Keeping It Clean: Why Bother?

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Keeping It Clean: Why Bother? If you’re concerned about keeping it clean, my guess that you’re also concerned over your sexual behavior, or that you want to avoid ever having to be concerned about it. Makes sense. By now, you’ve probably attained some important life goals, so I’ll also assume you’ve steered your life in a certain direction and, to some extent, you’ve succeeded. You have expectations, too, especially of yourself. You Continue Reading

Random Ramblings #27: My Little Christmas Sinner

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Every Friday we’ll leave the topic oriented post, and instead post some personal comments. — A Cuppa Joe - Random Ramblings from a Fellow Struggler My Little Christmas Sinner My son hates it when I tell stories that make people want to pinch his cheek and say “Awww!” At the ripe age of 15 he’s entitled to balk at re-tellings of his cuteness, just as I’m entitled to write about them with impunity. (I’ve often told him he’s free to write about me when he’s grown, just as long as his accusations against me are Continue Reading

Fear Itself

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Fear Itself “---fear hath torment.” - I John 4:18 While most of us are remembering Pearl Harbor today from a safe distance, Navy veteran Lou Gore recalls the events of December 7, 1941 as an insider. Stationed aboard the USS Phoenix in Honolulu that morning, the then-18 year old was cleaning up after breakfast below deck when smoke, flames and screams converged to create a pandemonium he describes movingly in a recent interview with The Continue Reading

Outraged

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. --- Outraged I am becoming the kind of man I used to laugh at. In my twenties and thirties, I’d make a mental note of guys whose faces said “I’ve seen too much; I’m mad as you-know-what; the world’s a mess.” Everything about them seemed cynical and bitter, and while I sympathized with whatever hurts brought them to such a point, I also criticized them for becoming such Scrooges. They were outraged about Continue Reading

The ‘It’ Factor

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — The ‘It’ Factor Considering the fact you’re reading a blog on sexual integrity, there’s the possibility you’re either in crises over your sexual behavior, or you want to avoid ever having that sort of crises. And why shouldn’t you? You’ve got other plans, after all - a family, a home, or a certain type of job or career. And by now, you’ve probably attained some of those goals, so I’ll also assume you’ve steered your life Continue Reading