When Hurting is Helpful

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — When Hurting is Helpful “ --- neither will I offer burnt offerings unto the Lord my God of that which doth cost me nothing.” - II Samuel 24:24 I see nothing in scripture or common sense leading me to believe life shouldn’t be savored. Paul told Timothy that God has given us all things richly to enjoy (I Timothy 6:17) and I say bring it on. There are walks to take, movies to see, waves to ride, footballs to toss, and an endless variety of Continue Reading

You, Interrupted

Solution - break the rule

Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — You, Interrupted And when Jesus beheld him, He said, ‘Thou art Simon the son of Jonah: thou shalt be called Cephas’ which is by interpretation, A stone. -John 1:42 Think you know yourself? You do, I’m sure, as much as your limited experience, intellect and perspective will allow. But in this, as in all matters of human understanding, it’s through a glass darkly, partial and obscured, incomplete. (I Corinthians 13:12) Because you, as Continue Reading

Of Morsels and Birthrights

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Of Morsels and Birthrights Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.  For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears. - Hebrews 12: 16-17 I used to think Esau got a raw deal. He was a young man of the earth, skilled in hunting and physical prowess, Continue Reading

The Joy of Awful

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — The Joy of Awful “A person overtly expresses distress, but it is covertly gratified at the prospect of the satisfaction they can wring from their misfortune.” - Dr. Eric Berne, Games People Play Even as a child, dynamics between people interested me. I was ten years old when Eric Berne’s classic Games People Play was published, and since I helped myself regularly to my parent’s reading material, I dove into Continue Reading

Random Ramblings #46: My Little Christmas Sinner

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Every Friday we’ll leave the topic oriented post, and instead post some personal comments. — A Cuppa Joe - Random Ramblings from a Fellow Struggler My Little Christmas Sinner My son hates it when I tell stories that make people want to pinch his cheek and say “Awww!” At the ripe age of 16 he’s entitled to balk at re-tellings of his cuteness, just as I’m entitled to write about them with impunity. (I’ve often told him he’s free to write about me when he’s grown, just as long as his accusations against me are Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant  Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” If that’s the case, here are the top five things I think she should Continue Reading

Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Some time ago I wrote this in response to the question of what steps a man should take to “keep it clean.” Considering the amount of stimulation and temptation we’re confronted with daily, common sense tells us to be, and stay, prepared. Here are ten ways we can help make that happen. Ten Tips for Maintaining Sexual Integrity Tip 1: GET REAL Recognize that sexual temptation is unavoidable in our sex-obsessed culture. Erotic images on Continue Reading

Fear Itself

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Fear Itself “---fear hath torment.” - I John 4:18 While most of us remember Pearl Harbor from a safe distance, Navy veteran Lou Gore recalls the events of December 7, 1941 as an insider. Stationed aboard the USS Phoenix in Honolulu that morning, the then-18 year old was cleaning up after breakfast below deck when smoke, flames and screams converged to create a pandemonium he describes movingly in a recent interview with The Christian Continue Reading

When Hurting is Helpful

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — When Hurting is Helpful “ --- neither will I offer burnt offerings unto the Lord my God of that which doth cost me nothing.” - II Samuel 24:24 I see nothing in scripture or common sense leading me to believe life shouldn’t be savored. Paul told Timothy that God has given us all things richly to enjoy (I Timothy 6:17) and I say bring it on. There are walks to take, movies to see, waves to ride, footballs to toss, and an endless variety of Continue Reading

A Desolate Epitaph

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — A Desolate Epitaph “He passed away, to no one's regret --- ”(NIV) - II Chronicles 21:20 King Jehoram’s history could hardly have been uglier. First born son of righteous King Jehoshaphat, he had all his brothers killed when he took the throne, grabbed Ahab’s daughter for a wife, established and then sanctioned national idolatry, and, as the text states in general, “did that which was evil in the sight of the Continue Reading