Releasing My Wounder

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event Continue Reading

Beware the Grudge

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Beware the Grudge A happy marriage is the union of two good forgivers. ~ Ruth Bell Graham On the best of football teams fumbles happen, and passes are either poorly thrown or missed. But the players would be unusually stupid if they held their errors against each other, for obvious reasons. They have a goal. They need each other’s cooperative effort to achieve that goal, and if they waste time and energy holding grudges against a teammate Continue Reading

No Flakes

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — No Flakes Confidence in an unfaithful man in time of trouble is like a broken tooth, and a foot out of joint.  (Proverbs 25:19)  Decades ago, while babysitting a friend’s two young children, I overheard the littlest one commenting on the snowy scene she was watching on a cartoon: “It’s so pretty!”, she squealed, then mis-pronounced, “There’s no flakes all over the world.” Utopia, I thought to myself. Continue Reading

The Other Bond

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — The Other Bond Adultery is trending. Anna Karenina opened in movie theaters last week, updating one of literature’s most renowned extra marital affairs. Liz and Dick, the Lifetime Channel’s biopic on the notorious Taylor/Burton relationship which began with infidelity and became a national obsession, aired Sunday night. And, of course, we’re still sorting out the confusing, tangled elements of the Petraeus scandal. So the act of straying Continue Reading

How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant

Remind him that you’re his partner and want the best for him, your marriage and your family.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — How Do I Know He’s Getting Better? Five Things to Look for When a Man Says He’s Repentant  Wives often ask my wife and I how they can really know their husband, who’s committed some form of sexual sin, is getting better. While there’s no acid test, there are some things I believe a woman can and should expect when her man says, “I was wrong; I’ve repented of it.” If that’s the case, here are the top five things I think she should Continue Reading

Restful Truth

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Restful Truth Behold, You desire truth in the inward parts. - Psalm 51:6 It all began with a lie. The Serpent assured her that when God said “You’ll die” He must have meant something else. And that He wanted to deny her something she should have, and that it would be life-giving. All lies; all accepted then acted on. Funny how the lies we believe influence the decisions we make, decisions we then lie about as we try to cover them up, Continue Reading

Freely Forgiven

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it’s helpful. — Freely Forgiven "A happy marriage is made up of two good forgivers." - Robert Quillen It’s discouraging to hear a couple say they want to improve their marriage, then continue to rehash each other’s sins. You can put the car in drive or reverse, but not both, and certainly not at the same time. If you want to keep the upper hand by repeating your partner’s past Continue Reading

Releasing My Wounder

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event Continue Reading

Renouncing the God of Me

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something about doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. --- Renouncing the God of Me When I repented of sexual sin back in 1984, I nearly drowned in grief over my failures. I was forced to look not just at my wrongdoing, but at its effects as well. And that meant asking myself questions I’d avoided for years. I’d been a Christian six years before I gave myself permission to start using porn, engage prostitutes, and give myself over to every form of sexual vice, both natural and unnatural. And I was a Continue Reading

Still In the Dog House? Try a Weekly State of the Union Address

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Still In the Dog House? Try a Weekly State of the Union Address For the married man, there can be a real helplessness that goes along with repentance. You know you’ve messed up, you’ve apologized every which way you can, and you’ve taken some concrete steps to get help. You’ve joined an accountability group, you’ve gotten yourself an accountability partner, you’re in counseling, and you make sure that on a daily basis you’re in Continue Reading