Rebel Without a Clause

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Rebel Without a Clause The idea that this world is a playground instead of a battleground has now been accepted in practice by the vast majority of Christians. - A.W. Tozer Today I will, like you, be presented with countless opportunities to misuse my sexual self. There will be images I’ll pass on the street or the mall, unclean memories from past wrongdoings, fantasies that intrude like unwanted pop-ups on the computer. And every time Continue Reading

He’s Just Not That Into Him

Tired.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — He’s Just Not That Into Him A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Continue Reading

The Best, Not the Most

Cher in "Moonstruck"

Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — The Best, Not the Most “So maybe my nature does draw me to you. That doesn’t mean I have to go with it. I can say yes to some things, and no to some things that are gonna ruin everything. I can do that. Otherwise, you know, what good is this life God gave us?” -from the film “Moonstruck” In the story cited above, an engaged woman has fallen in love with her fiancé’s brother. Realizing the wrongness of pursuing a relationship Continue Reading

Not Interested. Thanks. Goodbye.

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining sexual integrity. Hope it helps. --- “Not Interested. Thanks. Goodbye.” It took me about four decades to perfect the art of brushing off pushy solicitors. Not that I begrudge anyone their means of making a living, but when I want something, I’ll go out shopping for it. I’ve no need for anyone to call me suggesting a product or service, and I have a particular dislike for telephone solicitors invading my home with their pitch. I’ve tried listening politely, only to have my Continue Reading

Second Language, Better Speech

ricky and lucy

Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Second Language, Better Speech Indulgence can be a language of sorts, the kind we learn early in life, try to un-learn, but occasionally default back to. Think of language in the literal sense. The first one you learn is your primary language. It’s deeply embedded, comes naturally, and is probably spoken by those around you. If by chance you also learn a second language, you’ll need to use it regularly if you want it to come fluently. Continue Reading

Memories

The human brain

Every Monday we post something about maintaining your sexual purity. Hope it helps. --- MEMORIES “Mr. Dallas,” the card read, “how long have you been sexually sober? And does it ever get easier?” A pointed but fair question. I was teaching a conference in Orlando last October, and during the Q and A session, one of the attendees sent up the card wanting to know about my consistency over the years. Feeling a bit like I’d just been asked if it was boxers or briefs, I replied that it had been 27 years since I’d viewed Continue Reading

He’s Just Not That Into Him

Tired.

Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — He’s Just Not That Into Him A book and subsequent film titled “He’s Just Not That Into You” looked at the phenomena of single women who find it hard to accept the fact that when a man doesn’t return phone calls, breaks promises to get in touch, or keeps making excuses for not getting together, it doesn’t mean he had a car accident. Nor was he kidnapped, drugged, or overcome with the flu. It simply means he’s not that into you. Continue Reading

Where Love and Sorrow Meet

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Where Love and Sorrow Meet “When Jesus calls a man”, Dietrich Bonheoffer said, “He bids him come and die.” No getting around that. The claims of God on our lives are as unmistakable as His grace – unmerited favor with a death sentence attached. Jesus said as much when He declared: “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.  (Matthew 16:24) But given the fact I’m no Messiah and the Continue Reading

You’re Full Of It

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — You’re Full of It God sends no one away empty except those who are full of themselves. - D.L. Moody How can you tell if you’re full of yourself? You might ask yourself these questions, answering as honestly as you’re able: Do the people closest to you tell you that your words or actions suggest an unusual amount of selfishness? Even though you resist temptations towards behaviors you know are forbidden, Continue Reading

The Compartmentalizer

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it helps. --- The Compartmentalizer Year after year we hear wives agonize over the choices their husbands made. “What was he thinking?” they’ll cry, “and how could he do a thing like that if he loved me?” The conclusion they often come to – in error – is that he used the porn, or had the affair, or acted out in some other way, because he stopped loving her. How else can his selfish, destructive Continue Reading