Blest Be The Ties That Bind

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Blest Be The Ties That Bind We’re sitting here watching a beautifully put together gospel concert by country superstar Alan Jackson at the Grand Old Opry. The man’s running through a set of traditional hymns, singing with a simple integrity that’s pulling tears out of me. And somehow, for no discernible reason, the music’s got me thinking of my friends. Maybe it’s the community feeling a good old fashioned Continue Reading

Anticipation

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Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — Anticipation Beloved, now are we the sons of God, and it doth not yet appear what we shall be: but we know that, when he shall appear, we shall be like him; for we shall see him as he is. And every man that hath this hope in him purifieth himself, even as he is pure.  (I John 3: 2-3) Love it, or sick of it already, I know you’ve heard this sung repeatedly by now: “Tiny tots with their eyes all aglow Will find it hard to sleep Continue Reading

Armed

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Armed Forasmuch then as Christ hath suffered for us in the flesh, arm yourselves likewise with the same mind: for he that hath suffered in the flesh hath ceased from sin. - I Peter 4:1 In 1982 I embarked on some serious bodybuilding, putting my then 27 year old carcass through a tortuous regime which I came to truly love. My trainer spent a good deal of time prepping me for the bodybuilding lifestyle, emphasizing what became the most Continue Reading

The Vanishing Edge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — The Vanishing Edge We were out to dinner with a couple this weekend and, as often happens, the husbands paired off while the wives engaged in their own conversation. My friend and I started commiserating and complaining about the usual – not enough time, too little energy, too much uncertainty. It felt good to vent and be vented to, but one point he brought up especially resonated with me. “We need margins”, he noted, “and when we’ve Continue Reading

Naked, Unashamed and Accountable

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Naked, Unashamed and Accountable And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed. - Genesis 2:25 Shame wasn’t part of the human vocabulary until sin entered the picture. Adam and Eve were, as countless paintings and films suggest, innocently erotic and erotically innocent. No clothes and, I daresay, no inhibitions. That was then, and then was worlds away, ages ago. Today shame permeates the human experience. No Continue Reading

Embracing the Drudge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Embracing the Drudge And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. - Galatians 6:9 I find successful people aren’t necessarily brilliant, but they are willing to invest properly. They watch their investments of time and energy; they choose carefully who they invest friendship and trust in; they accept the fact that the habits they invest in now will hugely determine their immediate and long Continue Reading

Like Me. Please, Like Me

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Like Me. Please, Like Me  The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe. - Proverbs 29:25 I wonder how many things you would have done, said, or at least tried, if you hadn’t been so worried about what other people would think. The more I review my life, the madder I get at myself for letting someone else’s opinion carry so much weight. Over the years, there are too Continue Reading

A Doll’s Lesson

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — A Doll’s Lesson Jan Frank, a terrific author, speaker and therapist dealing with women’s issues, made a point decades ago during one of her presentations that I’ve never forgotten. While teaching a workshop to counselors on surviving sexual abuse, she pulled out three little dolls. One of them had an upraised fist, one was tied up with a rope, and the third had its arm in a sling. “Each one of these has a problem, right?” she asked the Continue Reading

Of Morsels and Birthrights

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Of Morsels and Birthrights Lest there be any fornicator, or profane person, as Esau, who for one morsel of meat sold his birthright.  For ye know how that afterward, when he would have inherited the blessing, he was rejected: for he found no place of repentance, though he sought it carefully with tears. - Hebrews 12: 16-17 I used to think Esau got a raw deal. He was a young man of the earth, skilled in hunting and physical prowess, Continue Reading

Default to Darkness

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Default to Darkness God’s blessings flow this month like lava. My client load has nearly doubled in the past few weeks; I just spent the weekend in Roanoke with 540 awesome students from Young Life and Inter Varsity discussing sexuality and holiness; my beautiful wife is looking lovelier than ever; my oldest son’s career is forming; my youngest son is getting more paid gigs for his Christian band; our new roof just went up; I have a new Continue Reading