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Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist “Men do not differ much about what things they call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.” - G. K. Chesterton Over the years I’ve seen too many Christian husbands in my office who’ve perfected the art of minimizing. I’ll begin by asking, “OK, what brought you here?” Some actual responses I’ve gotten: “I sometimes find myself using Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — About Jason Collins, Homosexuality and Christianity Two weeks ago I posted about a then-unknown pro athlete who was shortly going to “come out” and declare his homosexuality. Yesterday NBA pro Jason Collins ended the suspense by announcing not only that he was the one, but that he’s also, in his own words, someone who “takes the teachings of Jesus seriously.” So this is how I’d respond to him if given the Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Walking Strong This I say then, Walk in the Spirit, and ye shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. (Galatians 5:16) I’ve finally gotten back into serious workouts after a more than twenty year hiatus, and I’m glowing. Energy’s high, stress is hugely reduced, sleep is deeper, and – (drum roll) – I’ve all but lost my taste for fast foods. That may be the biggest miracle, because hamburgers and burritos have been my bad company for Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — The Vanishing Edge We were out to dinner with a couple this weekend and, as often happens, the husbands paired off while the wives engaged in their own conversation. My friend and I started commiserating and complaining about the usual – not enough time, too little energy, too much uncertainty. It felt good to vent and be vented to, but one point he brought up especially resonated with me. “We need margins”, he noted, “and when we’ve Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — A Doll’s Lesson Jan Frank, a terrific author, speaker and therapist dealing with women’s issues, made a point decades ago during one of her presentations that I’ve never forgotten. While teaching a workshop to counselors on surviving sexual abuse, she pulled out three little dolls. One of them had an upraised fist, one was tied up with a rope, and the third had its arm in a sling. “Each one of these has a problem, right?” she asked the Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Default to Darkness God’s blessings flow this month like lava. My client load has nearly doubled in the past few weeks; I just spent the weekend in Roanoke with 540 awesome students from Young Life and Inter Varsity discussing sexuality and holiness; my beautiful wife is looking lovelier than ever; my oldest son’s career is forming; my youngest son is getting more paid gigs for his Christian band; our new roof just went up; I have a new Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Rebel Without a Clause The idea that this world is a playground instead of a battleground has now been accepted in practice by the vast majority of Christians. - A.W. Tozer Today I will, like you, be presented with countless opportunities to misuse my sexual self. There will be images I’ll pass on the street or the mall, unclean memories from past wrongdoings, fantasies that intrude like unwanted pop-ups on the computer. And every time Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Your Name, Your Impact “A good character is the best tombstone. Those who loved you and were helped by you will remember you when forget-me-nots have withered. Carve your name on hearts, not on marble.” - Charles Spurgeon The people who’ve known you feel something when they hear your name, because your name represents how you’ve affected them. Interesting how that works. By way of example, just monitor your emotions while reading Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Hers, Mine and Ours “Likewise the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife.” - I Corinthians 7:4 St. Paul doesn’t leave a married guy much leeway when it comes to his own body. First he reminds the man that if he belongs to Christ, then he is “not his own.” Then he clarifies who the true owner is when he informs him that what he calls his body is actually a temple of the Holy Spirit (I Corinthians 6:19) and that he is Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Under New Management When my wife and I moved into Continue Reading
Hey, if you’re in Arkansas or the surrounding area, I’ll be teaching The Game Plan men’s purity seminar Saturday May 18 at Community Fellowship Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And Continue Reading
Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — We Who Are Seen “And she called the Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist “Men do not differ Continue Reading
{ Thansk Glenn. The intimacy thing isn't too simple is it? But well worth the work. Good hearing from you. } – May 20, 3:37 PM { "Safety net" is a good term for friends like that, Charlie. You're right to consider yourself blessed. Always good hearing from you. } – May 20, 3:36 PM
{ Joe, I love your transparency in which you write. I am with you, still trying to work on this intimacy thing. Thanks for the challenge... } – May 19, 1:49 PM
{ Welcome to ARKansas !!! Blessings =) } – May 18, 7:23 AM
{ Yes; it is uncomfortable, irritable, and at times dreaded, but how necessary and life saving at the same time! I consider myself blessed to have... } – May 17, 1:55 PM
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