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Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — The Minimalist “Men do not differ much about what things they call evils; they differ enormously about what evils they will call excusable.” - G. K. Chesterton Over the years I’ve seen too many Christian husbands in my office who’ve perfected the art of minimizing. I’ll begin by asking, “OK, what brought you here?” Some actual responses I’ve gotten: “I sometimes find myself using Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — Business as Usual Someone to hold you too close Someone to know you too well Someone to sit in your chair And ruin your sleep And make you aware Of being alive -“Being Alive” by Stephen Sondheim I got an education from my wife and son last Saturday on the subject of predictability. We were gathered around the kitchen counter when I started to sneeze, and between my ‘ah-choos’ I noticed Renee counting out loud. I finished Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — Business as Usual Someone to hold you too close Someone to know you too well Someone to sit in your chair And ruin your sleep And make you aware Of being alive -“Being Alive” by Stephen Sondheim I got an education from my wife and son last Saturday on the subject of predictability. We were gathered around the kitchen counter when I started to sneeze, and between my ‘ah-choos’ I noticed Renee counting out loud. I finished Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. — “What About ---” --- watching porn together? Fantasy role playing? Oral sex? “Sexting”? (Sending each other graphic messages via text) Are these things OK for married couples?” Inquiring minds, especially of the married sort, want to know. And in response, people are tackling some very spicy issues in their sermons and writings. Case in point, Pastor Mark Driscoll, leader of the Seattle mega-church Mars Hill, whose recent Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. --- Those Sexy Ears The light comedy Shall We Dance? includes a bit of dialogue that’s become a favorite of my wife and mine. Offering her theory as to why we marry, a woman notes: “We need a witness to our lives. There's a billion people on the planet... I mean, what does any one life really mean? But in a marriage, you're promising to care about everything. The good things, the bad things, the terrible things, the mundane things... all Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Surveying the Damage I’m somewhat OK about admitting my sin. Taking a look at its consequences is another matter. Yet when Nehemiah set out to rebuild Jerusalem, he began by taking a close look at the damage done to her walls. (Nehemiah 2: 11-16) It couldn’t have been easy. Knowing the walls were decayed was one thing; closely inspecting them to see just how decayed was another. But how else could he rebuild? To make things right, he had Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it helps. --- Mrs. Interrogator (“Am I Ever Gonna Be Off the Hot Seat?”) It happens often – a husband has a secret sin (porn, affair, etc.) that gets exposed, his wife is shattered but forgives him, so they begin rebuilding. But she still can barely wrap her mind around what he’s done, and wonders how he was capable of such a thing, so the questions start. Relentlessly. Frequently. Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. — Rebuilding Her Shattered Trust When Nehemiah set out to rebuild Jerusalem, he began by taking a close look at the damage done to her walls. (Nehemiah 2: 11-16) It couldn’t have been easy. Knowing the walls were decayed was one thing; closely inspecting them to see just how decayed was another. But how else could he rebuild? To make things right, he had to first see how wrong they really were. If you’re a married man who’s sexually sinned, Continue Reading
Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with restoring marriages. Hope it helps. --- Shemergencies Emergency Situations Wives Often Face (And A Few Brief Suggestions That I Hope Will Help!) “I just found out my husband’s using internet porn. What do I do?” 1. Make sure he knows that you know he’s been using porn, and that it is completely unacceptable to you. Don’t accept a simple, “Sorry, it won’t happen again.” Instead, let him know that you consider his porn use to be serious enough to warrant action in Continue Reading
Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. --- Hard Truth: The Wound that Heals When a racer’s vehicle needs repair, he doesn’t junk it. He pulls it over for a pit stop, and he certainly doesn’t do that because he’s finished with the vehicle. Just the opposite – he does it because he’s not finished with it! It’s a valuable car, and he has purposes in mind for it. After all, the pit stop isn’t a junk yard, but a place for repair and rebuilding. So when God Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Blest Be The Ties That Continue Reading
Every Wednesday we’ll post something to do with doctrine and recovery. Hope it helps. — A Race Well Planned (Excerpted from the Continue Reading
Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Under New Management When my wife and I moved into Continue Reading
Hey, if you’re in Arkansas or the surrounding area, I’ll be teaching The Game Plan men’s purity seminar Saturday May 18 at Community Fellowship Continue Reading
Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Without Provocation? “And Continue Reading
{ Great post, Joe. Thanks for your prayers. } – May 23, 1:54 PM
{ Thanks, Joe. } – May 23, 8:02 AM { Good example of the power of a title, Charlie. Hope the group continues to thrive. Blessings on it and you. } – May 23, 8:02 AM
{ Thanks for the article..will be looking for the book! } – May 23, 5:31 AM
{ We are starting a support group for men in our church this Sunday. We've had the experience to see how a descriptive title scare some... } – May 22, 2:44 PM
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