The Stepford Syndrome

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Every Thursday we’ll post something having to do with relationships and/or emotions. Hope it helps. — The Stepford Syndrome The power of porn may not just be its explicit content. It may also be its capacity to take the viewer into another world, a place where bodies and people are perfect, where imaginary lovers comply with every wish, and where the scene created perfectly matches the deepest desires of the viewer. It’s a perfect and perfectly destructive world, and it’s the stuff both horror and heartbreak are made Continue Reading

The Gay Marriage Debate: Winning, Losing or Dropping Out? (Part 2)

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Every Friday we’ll take a break from topical posts and will post some random personal thoughts.  — The Gay Marriage Debate: Winning, Losing or Dropping Out? (Links to all four parts at the end of the article) In Part I of this discussion I cited surveys affirming a shift in the public’s view of same sex marriage, a shift raising three questions that I hope to respond to each Friday for the next three weeks: Do we have a mandate to influence the culture? Is change an indicator of progress? Where do we go from Continue Reading

Cheaters Never Prosper

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Every Tuesday we’ll post something to do with strengthening marriages. Hope it helps. — Cheaters Never Prosper “Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. Defraud ye not one the other ---“ - I Corinthians 7: 3-5 Sins of omission are harder to spot, and easier to justify, then their more deliberate, obvious counterparts. When I cross a clearly defined line the moral question isn’t a question at all – I shouldn’t have done that. But when I should do something, yet Continue Reading

Where Love and Sorrow Meet

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Where Love and Sorrow Meet “When Jesus calls a man”, Dietrich Bonheoffer said, “He bids him come and die.” No getting around that. The claims of God on our lives are as unmistakable as His grace – unmerited favor with a death sentence attached. Jesus said as much when He declared: “If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me.  (Matthew 16:24) But given the fact I’m no Messiah and the Continue Reading

A Note from the Doghouse: “Honey, About That Mouth —”

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Every Tuesday we’ll be posting an article about restoring and strengthening marriages that have been damaged by sexual sin. Hope it helps. — A Note from the Doghouse: “Honey, About That Mouth ---” Every so often I like to post a “Notes from the Doghouse” message, which is written in the first person, and draws from what I’ve so often heard men say in counseling: “Here’s what I’d really like to tell her ---“ In some cases, when a husband sins, the wife’s behavior has been exemplary all along. On other cases, her Continue Reading

You’re Full Of It

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — You’re Full of It God sends no one away empty except those who are full of themselves. - D.L. Moody How can you tell if you’re full of yourself? You might ask yourself these questions, answering as honestly as you’re able: Do the people closest to you tell you that your words or actions suggest an unusual amount of selfishness? Even though you resist temptations towards behaviors you know are forbidden, Continue Reading

The Stepford Syndrome

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Every Thursday we’ll post something having to do with relationships and/or emotions. Hope it helps. — The Stepford Syndrome The power of porn may not just be its explicit content. It may also be its capacity to take the viewer into another world, a place where bodies and people are perfect, where imaginary lovers comply with every wish, and where the scene created perfectly matches the deepest desires of the viewer. It’s a perfect and perfectly destructive world, and it’s the stuff both horror and heartbreak are made Continue Reading

Unmasked? Unforgiveable!

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Every Tuesday we post something about strengthening or rebuilding marriages. Hope it helps. --- Unmasked? Unforgiveable! In the Gaston Leroux classic The Phantom of the Opera, a disfigured musical genius tutors an ingénue soprano who he’s fallen deeply in love with. At a critical point in the story, the protégé Christine, curious to know what her mentor looks like beneath the mask, snatches it away from his face when his back is turned. Furious at being exposed, he lashes out at her, screaming that she, by unmasking him, has Continue Reading

You’re Full of It

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with Emotional Issues or Relational issues. Hope it helps. --- You’re Full of It "God sends no one away empty except those who are full of themselves." -D.L. Moody How can you tell if you’re full of yourself? You might ask yourself these questions, answering as honestly as you’re able: Do the people closest to you tell you that your words or actions suggest an unusual amount of selfishness? Even though you resist temptations towards behaviors you know are forbidden, do you resent Continue Reading