Thinking it Through

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — Thinking it Through  Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things. - Philippians 4:8 We’re largely where we are today because of the decisions we’ve made. Not completely, I know, because plenty of things Continue Reading

When Truth Isn’t Enough

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Every Thursday we’ll post something to do with relational or emotional concerns. Hope it helps. — When Truth Isn’t Enough  Rejoice with them that do rejoice, and weep with them that weep. - Romans 12:15 One of my worst memories ever is of a funeral service I conducted as a young minister. A twenty-something mother contacted our church asking if someone would do a eulogy for her baby, who’d just been violently killed by her boyfriend. The offender was in prison; she had no family, only a few friends, so would we Continue Reading

When Hurting is Helpful

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Every Monday we’ll post something to do with maintaining sexual purity. Hope it helps. — When Hurting is Helpful “ --- neither will I offer burnt offerings unto the Lord my God of that which doth cost me nothing.” - II Samuel 24:24 I see nothing in scripture or common sense leading me to believe life shouldn’t be savored. Paul told Timothy that God has given us all things richly to enjoy (I Timothy 6:17) and I say bring it on. There are walks to take, movies to see, waves to ride, footballs to toss, and an endless variety of Continue Reading

Coming Out Manly

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Men coming out of the closet is business as usual. But pro athletes coming out of the locker room are another matter, one that’s making ripples and headlines everywhere.  As of this writing, at least one unnamed but presumably well-known professional player, from one of the four major sports, is about to drop the “I’m Gay” bomb. The National Hockey League, in anticipation of the big event, now officially offers its support to gay Americans in general and gay athletes in particular. Not to be outdone, the National Football League has Continue Reading

Prayers and Mercy for Rick Warren and Family

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Pastor Rick Warren’s beloved son Matthew just took his life, leaving behind a devastated family and a multitude of unanswered, and probably unanswerable, questions. I’ve wrestled with depression for decades and was diagnosed, during one horrific period of my life, as suicidal. It’s been decades, but I’ll never consider myself immune to depression’s pull. When it hits, it’s a tsunami, and swimming against it seems all but fruitless. So to a point, I strongly empathize with Matthew, even as I want to kick his butt and say Continue Reading

Releasing My Wounder

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Releasing My Wounder We’ve all got them – wounds, past injuries of the soul that still show themselves, either in current pain or current behavior. They can show themselves in current pain through memories that just won’t die. Sometimes a mental picture of a traumatic event, like a childhood humiliation or tragedy, keeps intruding into your thoughts. Maybe you let yourself relive it, and all the pain of the event Continue Reading

The Vanishing Edge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — The Vanishing Edge We were out to dinner with a couple this weekend and, as often happens, the husbands paired off while the wives engaged in their own conversation. My friend and I started commiserating and complaining about the usual – not enough time, too little energy, too much uncertainty. It felt good to vent and be vented to, but one point he brought up especially resonated with me. “We need margins”, he noted, “and when we’ve Continue Reading

Embracing the Drudge

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Every Monday we’ll post something about maintaining your sexual integrity. Hope it helps. — Embracing the Drudge And let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not. - Galatians 6:9 I find successful people aren’t necessarily brilliant, but they are willing to invest properly. They watch their investments of time and energy; they choose carefully who they invest friendship and trust in; they accept the fact that the habits they invest in now will hugely determine their immediate and long Continue Reading

Class Goes Crass

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I’m a movie fan who never watches the Oscars. Back in 2003, when Best Documentary winner Michael Moore hijacked the proceedings to launch a tirade against President Bush, I decided I’d had enough. For years I’d already been feeling “preached to” during the ceremonies by different Hollywood evangelists who used their acceptance speech time to promote various causes, but Moore’s tantrum was just too much. We’ve never watched the show since then. Until last Sunday night, when we relented a bit and recorded it for future viewing. We Continue Reading

Like Me. Please, Like Me

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Every Thursday I’ll post an article having to do with either relational or emotional matters. Hope it helps. — Like Me. Please, Like Me  The fear of man bringeth a snare: but whoso putteth his trust in the LORD shall be safe. - Proverbs 29:25 I wonder how many things you would have done, said, or at least tried, if you hadn’t been so worried about what other people would think. The more I review my life, the madder I get at myself for letting someone else’s opinion carry so much weight. Over the years, there are too Continue Reading