Beyond The Carnal

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Beyond the Carnal

When I feel overwhelmed by my own temptations, it’s humbling to remember how minor they really are, and how unacceptable any excuse for yielding to them will be. Esau learned that the hard way, and to this day when I read the account of Jacob snatching his birthright from him, I feel he got a raw deal. He was first in line for inheritance; his brother Jacob wanted to snatch it from him. So when Esau came in from hunting, exhausted and hungry, Jacob had made some aromatic stew which his brother craved, and which he offered him in exchange for his birthright.  Esau was, at this point “faint”, the Hebrew word for which means “languishing, wearied out from journey or toil.

The guy was wiped out and starving; the food was there as an immediate solution, whereas the inheritance was something far off. He yielded, satisfying a legitimate need in an illegitimate but understandable way. Yet scripture records this as an act of contempt cutting him out of his own birthright (Genesis 25:34) eventually leaving him devastated without remedy. (Hebrews 12:17)

Been there; done that. I remember all too well having emotional and sexual needs, feeling exhausted from years of not having them met, and finally yielding to the aromatic stew. The big difference, of course, is that I was nowhere near languishing; not at all within the same ball park as Esau when it came to weakness and hunger. So if there was no excuse for him yielding, there was less than zero for me. I knew better. I was a Christian man, but I had also become a very carnal man.

It seems we’re one of three: natural, or spiritual, or carnal. The natural man or has never been born again, so he lives apart from God’s spirit and is understandably unenlightened to spiritual realities. (I Corinthians 2:12) The spiritual man, by contrast, has been born again by God’s spirit and lives under that same spirit’s direction and authority. (John 3:8)

Then there’s the carnal guy, who has been born again but who’s still immaturely governed by his unique, longstanding appetites. They may be natural or unnatural ones – an appetite for food, or drugs, natural or unnatural sex – but they are, at core, carnal appetites which, when yielded to, set up a pattern of carnal behavior, the pattern eventually creating a carnal character. That’s what so irritated Paul about the Corinthians (I Corinthians 3:3) who were, in essence, believers acting like non-believers.

It’s a pretty common modern problem. In this fallen world Christians who’ve been born again nonetheless retain the ability to be tempted. No sin in that; the sin comes when a decision is made to gratify the temptation. That decision gets repeated, a pattern is set; carnality follows. But whereas the natural man has no choice but to follow his body’s passions, the spiritual man has a choice, and has made the wrong one, hence he goes from the spiritual to the carnal.

At this point he may argue “You don’t understand how hard this temptation is; how misunderstood I am; how many unmet needs I’ve got!” All of which may be true; none of which justifies his behavior. Granted, it’s hard to say no to what seems so rewarding and intense, so much a part of the natural makeup. I can sympathize, as we all should, and I suppose if we showed more open compassion along those lines more Christians would be willing to come forward asking for help resisting sin, rather than yielding to it. Still, I’m reminded of what the author of Hebrews wrote: “You have not yet resisted unto blood, striving against sin.” (Hebrews 12:4)

I’m tempted; I hate it. Whether the temptation to overeat, lust, lie, flake off or despair, I hate all my temptations. So boo-hoo, wah, whatever, that’s life. I have no choice in the matter – temptation happens. My choice is to resist or yield, and I know the fruit of each decision. Mine is to strive, hard and daily, if need be, rather than yield. Because tough experience has shown me that Paul was right, and oh so relevant today, when he said:

“For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.” (Romans 8:6)

Comments

Virtual TWiT | Jan 16, 2012

One of the notes I've glued into my Bible on Gen 25:31-34 :
"How offensive is it to Christ when we despise the birthright He birthed into us?! God laid Himself down and we'd sell Him to sin [noun- the personhood of sin] for a bowl of stewed lust!"

I hear that my own knees need to bend toward the floor....

randall slack | Jan 16, 2012

Very true, Joe. All of us struggle. Thanks for the honesty.

Robert | Feb 24, 2012

Joe,

a quote fro A. W. Tozer that just came to my mind:

"If God sets out to make you an unusual Christian, He is not likely to be as gentle as He is usually pictured by the popular teachers. A sculptor does not use a manicure set to reduce the rude, unshapely marble to a thing of beauty. The saw, the hammer and the chisel are cruel tools, but without them the rough stone must remain forever formless and unbeautiful.

To do His supreme work of grace within you, He will take from your heart everything you love most. Everything you trust in will go from you. Piles of ashes will lie where your most precious treasures used to be."

The point is, temptation usually strikes when we are the weakest. Oh how easy it is to follow the Lord and obey His commands when life goes easy street! I don't know if you can relate to that, Joe, but just try to imagine everything you love most would be taken away from you. Piles of ashes in your heart.

And then temptation kicks in and promises to at least numb the pain. Would you - would we? - be prepared for that? Would we still love Him then and follow Him even though we feel pain like never before?

Another thought: Inappropriate sexual acts are just part of the problem. For some maybe not even the biggest one. However, if someone with same-sex attractions starts to love a person of his own sex, things are getting more complicated. For quite a number of people with same-sex attractions (I still refrain from calling them/us "homosexual" as there is no such thing in my eyes. God made all of us heterosexual, even if some of us have - for whatever reason - same-sex attractions) love is the thing they had been missing the most in their lives, so finally meeting someone who loves them and whom they love might be a real spiritual and emotional challenge. Yes, they might understand that this is wrong, but you cannot just stop loving someone like that. It is one thing for them/us to learn how to stay away from sexual immorality, but how do you stay away from falling in love? There are real emotional needs behind that and one of the biggest challenges for some of us might be that there can be a fulfilled life for you even if you stay single and that this does not mean staying lonely.

Finally, a last point: Lots of us look at their same-sex attractions like at a disease or a disorder. However, not every man with same-sex attractions had problems with his father in his childhood days and not everyone's past and presence follows the usual ex-gay pattern. My point is that ssa do not necessarily have to be a bad thing (we did not choose to have them at first place and for some it also means they won't be able to change anything about them as well). Maybe it is like two sides of one coin: You can go for the wild side, have sex with men, live the gay life and so on. Or you can just as well use those ssa for His glory. They might make you "different" in the sense that you might have very special gifts and talents (like reaching out to others, serving the Church, reaching out to the "marginalized" and so on). Gifts and talents that others don't have. In that sense ssa can even be something good. God might have touched some of us extra special so we can touch other people's hearts as well...

Sorry for keeping you so long. Hope things are going well for you. The Jason ministry I serve (an international Christian ex-gay ministry affiliated to Homosexuals Anonymous) is still alive and we have branches and contact persons now in Germany, New Zealand, Africa, the USA and Canada plus a worldwide online-program. God is good!

Please say hello to Renée as well.

Hope to see you sometime soon!

Take care,

Robert
Munich, Germany

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